I cried at the bank today

I’m embarrassed to say I may have cried at the bank today 😁. 

It is overwhelming learning about everything I should have learned 20 years ago!!! GICs vs RSPs and TFSAs … Mutual funds … Cash vs fixed income vs equities… Agh!!!! It’s also really sad tearing down everything that we built over 20 years. 

Way too much adulting. 

I am grateful for the learning overall. I have three degrees including a masters but never learned basic financial planning … Being married to a man in finance meant that I trusted him to be responsible for these things while I took care of our family in the ways that used my strengths… Well I am excited and overwhelmed at the same time to learn these things now. 

 For my married friends, if you don’t know this stuff come and learn with me… You just never know if you will need it. It is empowering.  

So why am I sharing this with you??Because I want to model vulnerability.  

I have fears, insecurities, and shame. We all do!!! When people contact me they are often saying they are embarrassed to share their story with me… To be vulnerable. To say the truth of what has happened and where they find themselves today. But they contact me because they need to. They are fed up with living life that way anymore. They are tired of letting fear rule their lives. They are tired of suffering. They want to be happy, healthy and in control of their lives.

So today I am telling you that I know what it’s like to be afraid. To be overwhelmed. To not know what you are doing!

I tell my kids all the time, being BRAVE doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid- it means you do it anyway.  

So here I am- learning and reading and discussing and gathering all the information I can about something I was afraid to learn. Something way out of my comfort zone. And unfortunately I cried at the bank as I felt initially embarrassed and overwhelmed at my lack of knowledge. But as we sat and chatted I also laughed. And I learned a lot!!! And I left feeling hopeful and positive and proud. It is so empowering to step into your fears and to be brave to do what you’ve never been able to do before.

I hope sharing this will inspire you to do the same in some area of your life that is scary and new and uncomfortable for you but important for your self development. You can do it!

Let me know how it goes for you! Would love to hear from you.

Melissa 💛

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